I grew up with my father and stepmother . Stepmother brought all her children and family later . I and my sister didn't feel comfortable with this . We left to bigger cities , all alone . I met a lady , who was a stepchild to her father . She was also not comfortable with this . She needed a place to belong as i did . We had an affair and later she fell pregnant . I had hopes of the new start of my life . A year later she told me i have infected her and then to find out that me and my child were hiv- . I married her with her status and was prepared to be positive also . We had a second child . Later she found out that her parents , mother and stepfather needed her and then she started to focus on them . That gave me a panic too much because she does not give me my full attention which knows that i need it as i never got it as a child . Now her stepfather passed away and left lots of money behind . She is taking care of her family issues more than me as i left all my regards to take care of her . She does not want her mother to know her status and i believe she wants me to be alone . I feel lonely as i was before i left home and betrayed . What can i do ? I can't take this anymore because when i tell her , she says she is taking care of her family . Sometimes our house gets full of her relatives and stepsisters , and i will be alone . Please help me

Your wife has decided to be more involved with her family. This is her decision and is basically a healthy thing to do. By giving attention to her family, this does not mean that you need to be left out. You can also involve yourself with her family. In fact, her family is now your family. The best way for you to feel less lonely is to establish your own relationship with them. If your house is full of relatives, you need not be alone, but you do need to make an effort to relate to these people. Your choices are to isolate yourself or become "part of the family." I recommend trying to join the larger, extended family.

I realize that this may not be easy because of your own experiences. I'm not suggesting that it's a simple thing for you to do. But you should make an attempt, and you should get some help with this problem of feeling alone and betrayed. Seek help from a psychotherapist or counseling service.